Saturday, November 5, 2011
Question 3: Feedback
I enjoyed reading the section in Chapter 6 about giving effective feedback. Especially the part addressing how it's important to avoid apologizing for your feelings. Somebody really brought it to my attention a few months back that I tended to apologize for things that weren't even my fault. I guess it became habit for me to say sorry, even when I had every right to have my certain feeling or opinion in many situations. I do believe it is important to hold myself accountable for times I legitimately mess up and need to apologize. But my friend made me realize too that if everyone said sorry all the time, it would really take away the meaning and importance of actually being sorry. In addition to this it does create a vague and confusing way of communicating with someone when you're always saying, oh sorry this and sorry that. It's important especially to stand up for what you believe and feel is right. And if you say, "I'm sorry, but I feel this way," it takes away from the power everyone deserves to have in expressing feelings. So overall I believe it's important distinguish the difference of saying sorry when its needed and expressing your feelings without guilt or an unnecessary apology.
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Me too! Apologizing really can become a habit! I’ve never been one to apologize for my feelings, unless I wanted the other person to feel bad for something they had said, in which I’d respond with “I’m sorry for being emotional or caring” haha. I’m tricky like that ☺ I totally agree that you need to stand up for your feelings. I used to sort of hide my true feelings but then I realized that I have as much right as anyone else to share how I truly feel. Great post!
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