Relationship patterns

Reading the interpersonal chapter, I started reflecting on examples in my life that apply to the rigid complimentary pattern, competitive symmetry, and submissive symmetry. Well of course the best example of a rigid complimentary pattern would be my relationship with my parents. I'm 19 and the oldest of 2 girls, with parents that are great and very supportive, but at the same time, are still familiarizing themselves with their firstborn growing up and moving forward solo in life. So this example is one that is rather difficult to change, and part of it will never change, since they will always be my parents. But at the same time I don't necessarily have resentment, it's just a natural process that I accept and appreciate. A competitive symmetry is something I try to avoid. I can be competitive, but it's not a quality I feel like I need to practice religiously. I appreciate a more laid back, and I honestly don't enjoy being around people who take themselves so seriously, that heaven forbid if they fart in public, the world might spontaneously combust. But for many people it's really hard for them to just relax and laugh at themselves. I've experienced an example of competitive symmetry whether I like it or not with my roommate, who just tends to face everything with a competitive attitude. For her, she was just raised with that mindset, so it's tough sometimes because I know she means well, but I'm sure it's probably hard for her to reprogram herself in that area. It's not like being competitive is a bad trait either, but I feel like when it's in excess it's almost projection or overcompensation for an insecurity. And then submissive symmetry, is annoying and seems to be a quality of people with a lot of self doubt. Theres a difference of being easygoing and indecisive. I think that out of these three patterns, I think the first two are probably the hardest to change based off of my personal experiences, and depending on the circumstance, potentially the most damaging.